Levine and Heller get a helpful selection of distancing demeanor (also called deactivating techniques):
aˆ? Saying (or believing) aˆ?Iaˆ™m not prepared commitaˆ?aˆ”but being with each other none the less, often consistently.
aˆ? Focusing on little defects inside companion: how s/ he talks, dresses, consumes, or (add the blank) and allowing it to block off the road of the enchanting emotions.
aˆ? Pining after an ex-girlfriend/ boyfriendaˆ”( the aˆ?phantom exaˆ?aˆ” more about this eventually).
aˆ? Flirting with othersaˆ”a hurtful technique to present anxiety into connection.